Ask her out on a date..... Options

[girl_in_disk]

hey selkie......
its always amazing to know how the male mind thinks. hehehe selkie first thing to do is be yourself coming from a girl nothing is a bigger turn off than a male trying to be something he isnt...and you will realize that it requires less effort and energy just being you...next....u have to worry less about the boy girl situations and asking out...like woop de doo you asked her and she rejected...think of it as her loss and make yourself feel better! heheh i know that doesnt help but ok you like her....has she been dropping any hints or showing any signs of affection or care??? if she does that changes the situation completely but keep in mind girls can be sly and lead guys on so dont be fooled by a fakkie! ...as for the number game steve mentioned...only play that if ur willing to be rejected 99 times!! haha...nice one steve.... snapplehooligan has the right direction although as j-rah mentioned sometimes it results in a "just friends relationship" but in time she may realize that she wasted her time just knowing you as a friend and might change her mind because your the friend who is always there for her who helps and listens to her problems rah rah rah. but NEVER ignore her.....that could cause more problems ....if you ignore she will and then it becomes messy and dirty....eww...ignoring doesnt fix the situation if anything it creates more tension and dislike because she will start seeing u as a total doodle! ...Anger Management Guy....thats pre-school play...there is no pattern to liking someone or asking someone out on a date...its simple...you like her, be honest with youself and with her and ask her if she would like to enjoy a date with you.....
if it makes things easier Selkie, why dont u go with a group of girls and guys and ask her if she might like to go out and she could invite some of her girlfirends so she doesnt feel so isolated and if you guys hit it off u might ask her on a second date from there.... if not well at least you tried.
i hope it goes all well and dont fret about the situation im positive you will be fine its just the initial step of asking but in time it will eventually become so comfortable that the initial time of asking becomes a fond memory and a massive hollywood comedy! so smile and try not to stutter! hehehe GOOD LUCK SWEETY!

[Stumpey]

Getting rejected is part of life....being rejected by women/girls is a small part see how you feel when you did not get the job,mortgage or a million other things that you wanted as you go through life. If you don't ask you will never know its no good thinking later that you wish you had done something and because you didn't ask it did not happen, if you got rejected then you tried and move on and if it happened then woooo hooo whats the worst thing that can happen when somebody says no..you may feel pissed off for a few days but none of this is life or death!!! even though it may feel like it. Learn by your mistakes we all do, nobody is going to give you anything its up to you to go and get it. Anything that is worthwhile is worth putting effort into be it women, jobs or school to move forward you somtimes get knocked back but you still can move forward.

But hey this is not supposed to be a lecture its just what I have learnt over the past 45 years so you could say I have been there and got the T-shirt. The main thing is to have fun, work hard , play hard and keep smiling.

Steve

[Mario]

LoL@this Thread.. You Shoulda Called it


"How Can A Nerd Successfully Get A Date!"


eh.. im 18 and only have had a few gf's .. but its all about one thing and one thing only.. how ya treat em. I mean cmon.. what girl dont like gettin ****? roses, chocolates.. etc etc.. but thats only after knowin her.. but never EVER mix friends with dating.. never works.. (neither does mixing friends with "friends with benefits".. ) it just gets nasty and awkward..

(not gunna say what i originally typed but heres my advice..sry for the delay:

just ask em.. better to ask em then not to, and its better to just be your self. i mean in the end.. do you wanna be the guy who sits thier and wonders.. "what woulda happened if i just asked..."